Why My Sorry?
Was talking to a friend the other day about apology, musing on the fact that often when we say sorry there is a sense or hunch that the other person hasn't quite "bought it". They might say words like "apology accepted" or "oh, it's nothing" and yet in our heart of discernment it "feels" like it's still not quite right between us. Why is that? Could it be that the motivation behind our apology is more self serving than it ought to be? Is my "sorry" more about alleviating my guilt than it is about easing your pain? That is a question we need to ask ourselves, and those who are self aware will be honest in their answer. There is this thing called duty that compels our moral and ethical behavior; it's implicit and intrinsic and I suspect only sociopaths don't feel it. We do something wrong towards another, guilt sets in, quickly followed by a sense of duty to go make it right. Our choice is to do our duty o